4. Emotional Intelligence Tests: Self-observation

Written by Rachel Green. Director, The Emotional Intelligence Institute. Accredited user of the MSCEIT - the Mayer-Salovey-Caruso-Emotional-Intelligence-Test.

Self-observation can be an essential first step in testing your emotional intelligence and in understanding what your levels of emotional intelligence are.

However, it is important that people have significantly high levels of self-awareness and self-honesty if they are going to gain an accurate assessment of their emotional intelligence.

Some people are too hard on themselves and others are blind to their weaknesses. Neither habits produce a valuable assessment of emotional intelligence.

What are the kinds of aspects of your own emotionally driven behaviour and emotions that you might usefully pay attention to?

How reliable are your judgements of yourself? How clear is your awareness of all aspects of your emotional intelligence?

Sometimes assessment on an emotional intelligence ability measure, such as the MSCEIT, is more reliable. It is included in our 5 star emotional intelligence coaching package.

4 examples of emotional self-observation you might include:

  1. What effect you have on people. Are people comfortable or uncomfortable interacting with you? Do people feel intimidated by you when you ask them questions or do they feel at ease? 
  2. How good are you at noticing your own emotions? Do you know how you feel throughout your working day or only in certain situations?
  3. How good are you at reading others' emotions? Do you know when someone is feeling tense, dejected, put-out, pleased, appreciative or delighted?
  4. How well do you manage your own emotions? If you are feeling miserable can you shift to feeling more buoyant? If you feel anxious can you help yourself relax? If you are irritated can you calm yourself?

3 more examples of emotional self-observation

  1. How well do you manage the emotions of others? If your team is stressed can you help break the tension? If your team are lacking in energy can you help lift their spirits? If your team are feeling bored can you inspire them?
  2. To what extent do you consider your own and others' emotions when making important decisions that affect your and their welfare? How accurately do you reason with emotions when making decisions or do you just let your emotions make your decisions for you?
  3. In what circumstances do you express your feelings clearly? Which feelings do you keep to yourself and which ones do you express to others. How do you express anger, worry, appreciation and love?

Self-observation is not a reliable form of emotional intelligence test but it can provide some illuminating information upon which you can build. It is a great place to start.

Want to do the MSCEIT to measure your emotional intelligence? It is the gold-standard ability measure. To find out how to take the Mayer-Salovey-Caruso-Emotional-Intelligence-Test and gain feedback on the results from our Director, emotional intelligence specialist, Rachel Green. Click here.

When people gain an accurate insight into their emotional intelligence it provides a foundation from which to develop their emotional intelligence further.

When they don't know what levels of emotional intelligence they have, they can go through life repeating the same mistakes. Can you afford to do this?

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