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« Anxiety management: 14 things I've learnt, by Rachel Green »

Written by Rachel Green. The smart emotions coach: Helping smart people gain positive outcomes from uneasy emotions and difficult decisions. Director, The Emotional Intelligence Institute.

Anxiety management: 14 things I've learnt

Anxiety can feel horrible, can't it? I have gone through several periods of serious and significant anxiety in my life, including panic attacks. I have learnt a lot about anxiety as a consequence and am a richer person for it.

I share with you some of what I've learnt in the hope it will help you reduce anxiety too. Anxiety is one of the many emotions that can help us develop our emotional intelligence.

Seven things I've learnt about anxiety management

  1. Anxiety may be trying to tell us something valuable, IF WE BOTHER TO LISTEN, which most of us don't because we are so absorbed in trying to get rid of it.
  2. Listening to our anxiety and the reason it may be there, can be a painful process, but, if we stay with it long enough, on the other side of the pain may be the brighter life we are longing for. This helped me when I needed anxiety management. I discovered my anxiety was trying to tell me to stop being a workaholic.
  3. Sometimes all our anxiety is telling us to do is to be better prepared and to have more skills.
  4. Instant solutions to "cure anxiety" are usually gimmicks.
  5. There are an enormous number of valuable anxiety management techniques that are available to help us become at ease with anxiety, reduce anxiety and allow it to go altogether.
  6. There is not ONE anxiety management technique that suits everyone. Each of us needs to be willing to put in the time, effort and patience to find the technique(s) that work best for us. 
  7. Meditation has helped me enormously to calm down anxiety and I cured my panic attacks by using that. The meditations I used are on our MP3 recordings "Happy not hassled" if you want to use them too.
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Another seven things I've learnt about anxiety management

  1. Tapping has also helped myself and others to reduce anxiety, including anxiety associated with PTSD from childhood traumas. I have used the version of tapping called Simple Energy Techniques (SET) combined with Provocative Therapy techniques.
  2. Building up a determination not to give up finding a way through the anxiety and not to give in to the anxiety can make the difference in overcoming it. It took me 18 months to sort out my panic attacks not 18 hours or days.
  3. Often we may need a combination of anxiety management techniques to get the best results; one technique on its own may be nowhere near as long lasting and successful as a combination of techniques.
  4. Medication on its own may suppress anxiety but not remove the fear of it, and thus we may remain ever vigilant against anxiety and fearful of coming off the medication. Medication on its own, while it can be important for severe anxiety and anxiety disorders, may keep us stuck in a self-perpetuating cycle of anxiety.
  5. Medication when supplemented with other techniques, may free us from anxiety and be a successful anxiety management technique. If medication eases the symptoms of anxiety it can be an opportunity to grow and develop in the way that we need, so that in the end we may be able to remove the need for medication. However, do not come off medication without the supervision of a good mental health practitioner or Doctor.
  6. Mixing alcohol and anxiety can produce lethal results.
  7. Anxiety can feel dreadful, but when we add dread on top of the anxiety we make it worse. It doesn't go away because we dread it. It stays. What a shame!

Do you need anxiety management too? 

The meditations I used to cure my panic attacks included one on loving-kindness. A recording of this is on my MP3s "Happy not hassled" if you want to use it too. I talk you through it so you know exactly what to do and explain how to use this and other meditations to manage your emotions and reduce anxiety. I recommend them to you.

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NB: Rachel is not a psychologist nor a psychiatrist. This article is for your information only based on her personal experiences and is only general in nature and does not constitute individual advice. Everyone is different. It is not provided as an alternative to obtaining professional advice from an appropriately qualified practitioner. Please seek the individual help you need.