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Apr292014

« 16. Understanding Judging types »

Written by Rachel Green. Director, The Emotional Intelligence Institute. MBTI coach with over 25 years MBTI experience, and author of the new book: "INFJ: What's it like to be one."

Do you ever wish that you understood the people around you or even yourself?! Or maybe you wish everyone just saw life the same way that you did and you can't understand why they don't? Do some people seem to procrastinate or dominate? Are some spontaneous while others are rigid? Do some seem judgemental while others are wishy-washy?

Oh the differences in people! I thought today it would be good to look at some of the differences and try to make sense of them ...

Lets look at one key type - what is known as the Judging type. On the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), (a personality and communication profile which differentiates 16 different personality types based on 8 preferences) one of the personality preferences is called "Judging" or "J". There are a lot of Js around!

You may be one, or your flat mate, boss or child. Do you recognise yourself or others in the descriptions? Find out how they tick ...

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1. Like to close things off.

J's generally get stressed if decisions or actions are left incomplete or open-ended for any significant length of time. What "significant" is will vary for each person.

However, typically "J's" may feel so much better when things are finished that they'll finish activities even if they don't have all the correct information. Sometimes they'll even make the wrong decisions just so they can finish tasks even if it means they have to re-do the same activities later or it may cause problems later.

Perceiving types (P's), the opposite preference, may find this hard to comprehend as they generally like to leave things open-ended, allowing time for other information to be received - (sometimes the J type would prefer to call this procrastination!). In case this all this seems rather vague, here is a real example:

My mother was a Judging type. Once when she was moving house she was taking care of some of the arrangements. One morning I arrived and she announced she'd cancelled her television rental and the TV would be picked up on Friday. Surprised at this I asked her what she was going to do for a television in her new home. Her reply? "I didn't know whether I could take a television to my new home or not, so I cancelled the television". This is a classic Judging response - instead of waiting until the next day to find out the extra information she needed, she wanted to "deal with the television NOW". So in the absence of full information she cancelled it.

Once I heard this I made one phone call to her new home and found out, yes, she could take her television! However, it was too late to take her old one so she had to find a new television - all of which involved a drive, visiting a number of shops, filling in new forms and taking a lot of time! Waiting slightly longer would have saved us having to do all this. The short term stress relief which was gained initially resulted in a more prolonged level of stress later.

Some Judging Types so automatically seek closure they don't know that this is the mechanism that's driving them. With greater awareness and a willingness to reduce their push for closure, in some circumstances, they can operate more effectively.

2. "Yes but...".

Judging types generally express opinions on what they see going on in the world.

I noticed, for example, that when I was walking in a new neighbourhood recently (I have a Judging preference too!) I would be expressing a series of judgments about the gardens, the cars, the homes ... until I realised how negative and opinionated I sounded!

  1. "What lovely roses",
  2. "Why on earth would anyone bother to put gravel instead of lawn?",
  3. "That driver is going too fast",
  4. "I don't like the plants in that garden, it looks so sterile",
  5. "Isn't it good to see so many hanging baskets?", and on I went!

Opinions were expressed about the world. Once I realised, I shut up and enjoyed the day in peace and quiet!

When a Judging type meets the opinion of another Judging type conversation can become heated and challenging. Conversations can also be quite short! When one Judging type expresses an opinion another Judging type may "Yes, but..." it. For example, "That garden is lovely.". "Yes, but they should have more flowers in the flower beds". End of conversation!

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3. Get things done NOW.

Judging types can be very hard workers.

Many organisations rely on the efficiency and focus of Judging types to get the job done - however long it takes. However, what can happen is that the Judging types are still at their desks when they should have left for the day. ("Should" by the way, is typical vocabulary for the J!).

They'll "just finish this before..." is a common statement some people with judging preferences say to themselves.

  1. "I'll just finish this report before I go home".
  2. "I'll just finish the ironing before I go to bed".
  3. "I'll just check this e-mail before starting tea".

This can result in J's becoming over-stressed, overworked and in some cases short of sleep, short of relaxation and not having completed priority tasks. They may spend their time finishing almost anything, however tiny and unimportant, just to clear it out of the way, now.

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  1. You may find this book helpful to deepen your understanding of the communication differences between the types. It includes a whole section on bridging the differences, eg. between iNtuitives and Sensates, between Feelers and Thinkers; and it has a discussion on the differences between Judging and Perceiving types such as an INFP and an INFJ, and INFJ and an INTJ: "INFJ: What's it like to be one."
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