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Written by Rachel Green. Director, The Emotional Intelligence Institute and MBTI coach with over 25 years experience, and author of the new book: "INFJ: What's it like to be one."

The research, e.g. by Ben Palmer et al, shows that emotional intelligence or EQ is a separate paradigm and independent of personality. However, emotional intelligence is a complex skill set, it is not just a single factor you can or can't do.

What I have found, from working with many different clients on their emotional intelligence, is that different personality types on the MBTI may find some aspects of emotional intelligence easier than other aspects. This makes sense if the function stack of each type is understood.

For example, an INFJ has an auxiliary of Extraverted Feeling. This helps them to read others' emotions really well. In contrast they do not have introverted Feeling in their function stack and they may find it harder to read their own emotions. This is my lived experience and observable in my clients who are INFJs.

As I have a background as an MBTI coach with over 25 years experience, and as an emotional intelligence coach of over 14 years, I find this combination worth exploring.

What is also very important is that someone who is an emotionally intelligent version of one type will differ from someone, with the same type, who has a low emotional intelligence. Thus an emotionally intelligent ISTJ or ESTP, for instance, will behave very differently around their own and others’ emotions from an ISTJ or ESTP with low levels of emotional intelligence.

Different types find different aspects of emotional intelligence harder or easier. However, developing their emotional intelligence is vitality important for each type. Come join with me in this exciting new emotional intelligence coaching package and I will make sure it is personalised to you and your type.

Here are a few of the emotional intelligence skill sets involved.

I hope this will show that no one personality type has easy access to all these emotional intelligence skills. Rather the types differ in which aspects they will find easy and which they will find hard.

  1. The ability to identify accurately your own emotions and their causes. For example, an INFJ may find this harder than an INFP, because an INFP has introverted Feeling as their dominant, the INFJ doesn't.
  2. The ability to be able to express emotions safely and clearly. This is not about hinting - many Feeling types may hint, this is being emotional not emotionally intelligent.
  3. The ability to accurately read the emotions of others and not read in things that are not there. For example, an INFJ may find this easier than an INFP, although any Feeling type with lower levels of emotional intelligence may read things in which are not there, and many Thinking types with lower levels of emotional intelligence may miss the importance of reading the emotions in others.
  4. The ability to reason with emotions and to be able to accurately predict emotions in oneself and others and to skilfully include the relevant emotional data in decision making - without the emotions dictating the decision. There is a difference between an emotional decision and an emotionally intelligent decision. With regard to type differences - those with a Feeling preference and lower or average levels of emotional intelligence may factor in too many emotions and too little cognitive data; and those with a Thinking preference and lower or average levels of emotional intelligence may not include enough emotional data.
  5. The ability to manage your own emotions skilfully. I know people with both Thinking preferences and Feeling preferences with both high and low levels of skill in this area.
  6. The ability to manage and influence the emotions of others, so if your team at work or family are very tense you know how to relax them. Some of the Feeling types may find this easier to do, i.e. those with extraverted Feeling (Fe) as a dominant or auxiliary if they have average or above emotional intelligence.
  7. The ability to perform effectively even in the presence of very strong emotions, e.g. can you still give a good public speech when feeling panic stricken, can you still contribute to a meeting without hijacking it when you are furious, can you still concentrate when you think you may win Lotto? I know some with a Thinking preference who can excel with this and some who let rage take over.

Different types have different aspects of emotional intelligence they find harder and easier. However, developing their emotional intelligence is vitality important for each type. Come join with me in this exciting new emotional intelligence coaching package and I will make sure it is personalised to you and your type.

The MBTI types are based on preferences not skills. Consequently just because someone has a preference in one area does not automatically mean they have a high level of skill in that area, nor a high level of emotional intelligence.

It is a fascinating area to consider - personality types and emotional intelligence. In case you are interested, I have started developing articles on the emotional intelligence of each of the different types. Here are some of the articles so far:

Want to increase your emotional intelligence or learn more about the MBTI types or your own?

There is so much that you can learn so that you develop greater understanding of, and skills with, your communication, personality and relationships at work and home. The EI Institute has a number of options to help you:

  1. If you live or work with INFJs or other Introverts and wish to understand them better, then this 2018 book by Rachel Green, our Director, is a must read: "INFJ: What's it like to be one."
  2. Many types are at risk of burnout. They can benefit from short periods of meditation if they are Extraverts, and longer periods if they are Introverts. We have a very popular audio-download on meditation called: "Happy Not Hassled".
  3. There is superior 1-1 coaching; and the MBTI is included as part of our smart leadership coaching package. You can find out more about your MBTI type and develop the skills you need, with Rachel Green.

For more details or to make a booking e-mail us now or pick up the phone and call us.

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