Written by Rachel Green. Director, The Emotional Intelligence Institute.
An emotional intelligence film: "Bitchiness, jealousy and boys" has been made by the students and film institute at Roleystone Community College. I acted as a resource for them, and Andrew Pheasant, Deputy Principal at the school, guided them through the process.
This is a film to discuss with teenagers and young adults to help them develop their emotional intelligence. It shows how emotions can build barriers between teenagers in typical situations that they deal with, e.g. relationships with the opposite sex, rivalry amongst peers and friends, being on Facebook, going to parties, and more. Solutions to the problems are also shown.
In this article we describe the film and its script, which was written by the teenagers involved. The actual film follows the description below, and there is a free copy of the teachers' and parents' discussion guide for you to download towards the end of the article.
The emotional intelligence plot
Ivy, is pretty and popular but Scarlet, her friend, is jealous and doesn't invite her to her party. Driven by her emotions of jealousy she starts bitching and backstabbing Ivy and spreading rumours about her; but what will be the fallout?
- How will Ivy handle feeling hurt, her social isolation and being excluded.
- What will happen to her friendship with Scarlett?
- And which one of them gets John, the new guy in the gym?
Emotional intelligence involves being aware of how you feel and managing your emotions intelligently. Does Ivy have the emotional maturity to deal with feeling hurt or does she get even on Facebook and refuse ever to talk to Scarlett again? You'll need to watch the film to find out.
This film is a great emotional intelligence resource, an ideal discussion point when teaching emotional intelligence in schools or wanting to develop emotional intelligence in the workplace. It shows many different components of emotional intelligence and the benefits of developing it.
If you haven't seen it already, you can watch the film below.
The emotional intelligence film: Bitchiness, jealousy and boys
Follow-up videos after the emotional intelligence film
There is a series of four follow-up videos to watch once you have seen the film. Each video explores a different aspect of emotional intelligence from the perspective of the actors, writers, crew, producers and EI coach and what they now know about emotional intelligence.
The follow-up videos add further resources for teachers, teenagers and parents on emotional intelligence.
There is also a list of questions you can use to guide a discussion on emotions and emotional intelligence with your students and teenagers, once you have all watched the film.
Here are all the videos related to the emotional intelligence film:
- 2. School students ask "What is EI?"
- 3. Emotional intelligence film: The actors EI insights.
- 4. Emotional intelligence film: What the crew learnt.
- 5. The benefit of EI in schools: The Assistant Principal explains.
Here is the teachers' and parents' guide to help you generate relevant questions to discuss with your teenagers: "The emotional intelligence film: Teachers' guide".
Develop your teachers' emotional intelligence
There is so much that your leadership team can do to develop their emotional intelligence and the emotional intelligence of their school. We have a number of options to help:
- There is a series of over 150 free articles on emotional intelligence, in addition to this one, on this site.
- There are emotional intelligence CDs, DVDs and books, particularly the unique and practical 2 DVD program "How to develop emotional resilience and manage your emotions".
- There are interactive, high energy and practical speeches for your conference or PD day, including "High on emotional intelligence".
Develop the emotional intelligence of your teachers now and be an emotionally intelligent school.