6. Emotional intelligence film: Teacher's and parent's guide

Written by Rachel Green, Director, The Emotional Intelligence Institute, accredited user of the Mayer-Salovey-Caruso-Emotional-Intelligence Test (MSCEIT) and author of "How to develop emotional resilience and manage your emotions."

A 15 minute emotional intelligence film: "Bitchiness, jealousy and boys" has been made by the students and film institute at Roleystone Community College, with input from The Emotional Intelligence Institute.

This is the discussion worksheet on the aspects of emotional intelligence covered.

Here is a series of questions to help you use the emotional intelligence film to generate a discussion on emotions and emotional intelligence with your children, teenagers and young adults.

Emotional intelligence: Analysis of the cast's feelings

  1. What did Ivy feel? (e.g. isolated, hurt, confused, left out, excluded.)
  2. How do you know she felt like this?
  3. What was the body language that told you how she was feeling?
  4. What did Scarlett feel? (e.g. jealous, envious, resentful.)
  5. How do you know she felt that?
  6. What were the facial expressions that told you how she was feeling?
  7. How did John feel? (e.g. shy, awkward, embarrassed.)
  8. Why did John feel like that? 
  9. What were the signs and signals he gave that indicated how he felt?

Emotional intelligence: Discussion on managing emotions

  1. What did Ivy do because of her emotions?
  2. What other options did she have to manage her emotions?
  3. What did Scarlett do because of her emotions?
  4. What other options did she have to manage her emotions?
  5. Why did Scarlett not invite Ivy to the party?
  6. Why did Ivy go to the party anyway?
  7. Why did Ivy say Jake was intimidated by Scarlett?
  8. Why did Scarlet hang back from asking Jake out initially?
  9. What helped Ivy and Scarlett resolve the issues in the end?
  10. What makes girls bitchy?
  11. Why didn't Scarlett ask her boy out?

Emotional intelligence: Self-reflection

  1. Why is it important to know how you feel?
  2. What makes you feel intimidated?
  3. What makes you jealous?
  4. How do you feel when someone is the centre of attention?
  5. Have you ever been mean or bitchy to someone else? 
  6. When were you bitchy or mean, and why?
  7. How were you feeling at the time?
  8. What else could you have done instead?
  9. What does it make you want to do when you feel jealous?
  10. What other options do you have?
  11. Have you ever felt socially isolated or left out?
  12. When has this happened?
  13. What does it make you want to do?
  14. How do you react to messages on Facebook?
  15. Have you ever received a message that you were angry about or hurt by?
  16. How did you respond? 
  17. What other options did you have?
  18. What emotions do you not like?
  19. How do you manage them?
  20. What other options do you have for managing them? 
  21. What areas of emotional intelligence would you like to be better at?

Other emotional intelligence and EQ resources

There are four follow-up videos that were made after the film on emotional intelligence was produced by Roleystone Community College.

The follow-up videos add further resources for teachers and parents. The students were also responsible for these videos and did the filming, lighting, sound and production.

Each video explores a different aspect of emotional intelligence from the perspective of the actors, writers, crew, producers and EI coach and what they now know about emotional intelligence.

Here are all the videos related to the emotional intelligence film, along with the link to the film in case you haven't seen it.

Develop your school's emotional intelligence

There is so much that your leadership team can do to develop their emotional intelligence and the emotional intelligence of their school. We have a number of options to help:

  1. There is a series of emotional intelligence workshops, including: "Mastering emotional intelligence". 
  2. There is an emotional intelligence 2 DVD program "How to develop emotional resilience and manage your emotions".
  3. We provide a face-to-face 5 star emotional intelligence coaching package which can be conducted online or in our Kelmscott office.
  4. Emotional intelligence asessments can be conducted using the MSCEIT.
  5. We can also bring a whole emotional intelligence programme to your entire school for your students and teachers, under the guidance of Professor Con Stough.

For more details, or to make a booking, e-mail us now or pick up the phone and call us.

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