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« 10. EI Competency 5: Emotional self management »

Written by Rachel Green. Director, The Emotional Intelligence Institute, accredited MSCEIT consultant.

What is emotional intelligence? It isn't one thing but a whole series of skills.

On the Genos emotional intelligence model there are seven dimensions of emotional intelligence, the fifth dimension being emotional self-management.

Being able to manage your own emotions day by day, hour by hour and even minute by minute when you are busy at work and in a highly pressurised environment takes a high level of skill.

In this article you will find:

  • A definition of emotional self-management.
  • The aspects I consider to be involved in this dimension.
  • An important step to develop your emotional intelligence and emotional self-management.

The definition of emotional self-management

The skill of effectively managing one's own emotions.

There are many aspects to this. For example, it may mean:

  • Being able to cultivate pleasant emotions such as feeling calm, appreciation and enthusiasm.
  • Being able to diminish the longevity of unpleasant emotions such as anger, frustration or anxiety so that you move through them quickly.
  • Being able to reduce the occasions on which unpleasant emotions occur, so that you experience emotions such as irritation, resentment or helplessness less often.
  • Being able to move from one emotion to another as required, so you have more choice over the emotions you feel at any given time.

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Do you need to better manage your emotions?

An important step in developing highly skilled emotional self-management is to be able to find out what your present patterns of emotional self-management are. Observe yourself for a week, and find the answers to these questions:

  1. Which emotions do you deliberately foster in yourself?
  2. Which emotions do you find it easy to manage?
  3. Which emotions do you carry for a long time?
  4. Which emotions do you not like and try to avoid or suppress?
  5. Which emotions do you have which positively impact on your work?
  6. Which emotions do you have which distract you from your work?
  7. Which emotions don't you manage well so that you leave a bad impression of yourself.

Emotional self-management is an essential emotional intelligence skill in the workplace whatever your role or position, and is essential for successful team work and co-operation.

A case study of emotional self-management in the workplace is available here.

Have your emotional intelligence assessed now.

Want to know how high your emotional intelligence is? There is another model of emotional intelligence, by Salovey and Mayer, that has an ability-based emotional intelligence test called the MSCEIT which you can complete online.

Click here to find out how to take the Mayer-Salovey-Caruso-Emotional-Intelligence-Test (MSCEIT) and gain feedback on the results from our Director, emotional intelligence specialist, Rachel Green.

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